Accidentals: Advice for all, is it?

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Advice, no matter how motivated by kindness it is, will not work for everyone. It might... given that it is tried... often by many. We could however afford others the freedom of not taking our advice.

The act of giving advice is one of thoughtful kindness. The giver dedicates their time, while giving it, and pour their heart out, by giving it, channeling what they believe to be true and helpful based on their life experiences, for the sake of others to boost. Opposition can naturally follow.

What is important to keep in mind, and one of the reasons for pushback, is that however established an advice may be, however tried, and however close to an ultimate law of the universe it may be, it won't work for everybody, and it most certainly won't work every time.

Generally speaking, tried advice will work for the middle spectrum of people i.e., centered around normal. As soon as you attempt to use a piece of advice outside the average representation of a population, the premise of its success falls apart. Take for example the idea to eat when hungry and drink when thirsty. Some people simply do not feel those stimuli. Others, feel them all the time! These are extremes, not norms, where following the advice will certainly be detrimental to the individuals heeding them.

We may want to reconsider the idea that people must listen to us to prosper. Maybe, just maybe, it is best not to be on board with the program.